When we are hypocritical, we lack sincerity. We may be overly critical by criticizing others on trivial matters or offer unkind criticism – especially in the form of allegedly kind acts (Lk 6:41). Hypocritical speaking is double-tongued. We talk differently with one person then we do with another (Mt 23:13, IVPBBC note). Hypocritical behavior involves saying one thing but doing another. It is acting, giving, praying to impress others (Mt 6:2). Hypocrisy is trying to leave false impressions by pretending to be someone we really are not (Mt 23:28). We are hypocritical when we misjudge priorities so we ask more of others than what should reasonably be expected of them or require them to prioritize less important matters over more important ones (Mt 15:6-7). Finally, we are hypocritical when we have had sufficient clarity to believe a spiritual reality but are unwilling to do so (Mt 16:3).
In contrast to hypocrisy, we are to be what we portray ourselves as being. We are to be congruent, authentic, sincere, honest about who we really are. Some individuals may bring out certain aspects of our personality more than others. For instance, we may joke more or feel more comfortable talking about spiritual matters with some people than others. Yet, whatever we do reveal must be genuine. It is like pulling back the curtain to reveal who we are. We need not pull it back all the way with every person to fully reveal who we are to everyone. However, whatever part of the curtain does get pulled back should accurately show who we are – no pretense (Eph 4:25).
Hypocrisy is a form of deceiving ourselves and/or another. It is bearing false witness (Ex 20:16). It is majoring in minor matters while ignoring more important ones – and thinking that is okay. Let us be honest and prioritize correctly.
Instead of being timid, learn to be appropriately bold.